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Feel like a good chat? Some of us Avoidants
could use a little together time in the chat
room. Some of us feel intimidated/frightened
by the sheer thought of it all! Since the
weekends allow most of us more time...the
chat room might not be a bad idea for you.
If you are ready to take that plunge or just
feel chatty you might want to send a message
to the group letting others know your are
available. If you dont get a response,
please know that it isn't a rejection of
YOU. IF you dont want to send a notice to
the group you can always check the chat
room in the evenings and weekends because
thats when the timid but mighty Avoidant
usually finds their way in there. :~D
Feeling Isolated? Maybe you can post us
about it. Or maybe you have ways of coping
through difficult things that might be of
help to somebody else. Never under estimate
your power to make a difference right where
you are at. It may seem insignificant and
you might think how much of a vulnerable
state you experience everytime you put
yourself *out there* on a limb. We live
in terror of our own vulnerabilities as
humans...they make us visible to others.
Is that what you fear? Sometimes being
visible is so painful because it means
we expose much of our own authenticity,
and we aren't sure we like our authentic
selves, much less if anyone else will like
or accept us. How can anyone else accept us
when we can't accept ourselves? Actually,
sometimes its the *seeing* person who says,
"Hey you are alright and if you need my
shoulder to lean on here it is..."
maybe not in those exact words but
the gift is there and you have only
to reach out to it.
Sometimes being authentic does mean
making changes. It means you accept
where you are at but are determined
to do what is neccessary to remove
the obstacles that lay in the road
before us. They are the big revolting,
ugly mockers that tell you...you haven't
got a chance. They lie and steal
from us. Their only job is to scare us
into submission, making us believe
we are no better than they say we are!
These guys are fiercely determined to
be our ruin! They feed upon our fears!
And they are strong and cling deeply
to our hearts, soul and psyche. Again,
with an understanding shoulder to lean upon,
someone to reach down and help you see
your way clear can help you discover
who that authentic self is, where it
lives and how to embrace it.
Lives aren't meant to be pain/struggle
free...perhaps some of us will always
live with a perpetual thorn in our
side but we have HOPE above hope that
the struggle will not be in vain.
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